Moving a parent into a care home: a guide to the first month

Moving into a care home is a big change for everyone. A little planning makes the first weeks easier.

Before the move

• Agree the moving date and what furniture, pictures and belongings can come. Label clothes.
• Share a short life story: routines, likes, dislikes, how they like to be addressed. For someone with dementia this helps staff hugely.
• Bring medication, the GP’s details, and copies of any Lasting Power of Attorney.
• Tell the pension, benefits and council tax offices, and redirect post.

Moving day

Arrive mid-morning when the home is calmer. Set up the room with familiar things before they arrive if you can. Stay for a meal, then leave on a positive note.

The first weeks

• Visit often but briefly at first; staff can advise what helps.
• Expect ups and downs: unsettled days are common for a few weeks.
• Ask for a care plan review after about four weeks.

Money matters

If the council is helping, the home’s value is ignored for the first 12 weeks (the 12-week property disregard). If the plan is to keep the home, ask about a deferred payment agreement. Attendance Allowance continues for self-funders.

Staying involved

Agree how the home will keep you updated, and who to call with concerns. Join residents’ and relatives’ meetings if the home holds them.

Reviewed by The Care Panel team on 21 October 2026. This guide is general information about care in England, not legal, medical or financial advice. Rules and rates change; check with your council or an adviser before making decisions.